Experts love saying that autistic people lack theory of mind, which they state is the ability to understand that other people have other perspectives and wants that are different from their own. I’m not sure if this is totally the case. The truth of the matter is there’s a lot of people who don’t understand that all human beings are different, distinct individuals with their own wants, interests and desires AND that it’s okay to have different wants, interests and desires.
For example, not everyone is going to love the book you love, and that is okay. Not everyone is going to love your favourite television show. Not everyone wants to live like you do.
Not everyone wants to get married and have kids and this is okay. People are all different. But there’s always people who push for everyone to be like them. They can’t understand other people’s perspectives and as a result look down on people who don’t live the way they do. They label them as unstable or unhappy and they can’t understand how they can go through life the way they do.
They are tyrants.
They’re the people who lecture single people about when they are going to get married. When they do get married they ask when they will have children, as if any of these things are their business. They don’t have to live other people’s lives, but they want to tell you have to live theirs.
Usually when people complain about this, they whine about how they’re being oppressed when many of these folks actively prevent people from living how they want to live.
It’s just irritating. If I don’t want to get married and have children right now, it’s not because I’m looking down on your choice to do that. It’s because I’m not ready yet and I know what I want and need better than anyone else does. Better than society. Better than judgmental people who think life isn’t worth living if it’s not a carbon copy of their lives.